I’ve just learned that I’m different to most people in a way that surprises me.
Apparently humans, as a means of coping, have a habit of ‘undoing’ bad things, using the imagination.
For example, if a relative dies in a car accident, someone might wish ‘If only so-and-so hadn’t taken the new route to work that day.’
In fact, this habit of undoing has rules.
The undoing must be something that could have ‘reasonably’ happened.
In the car accident example above, a less reasonable yearning would have been ‘if only cars had never been invented’ or ‘if only aliens had swooped down and kidnapped him the day before’.
This habit of undoing, I recognise it from people that I know, movies that I have watched and books that I have read.
But until this day, I’ve never noticed that I do not do it.
My brain just says ‘you may as well fantasize that the problem never existed, for all the good it will do’.
In fact I judge it to be feeble-minded to fantasize away the impacts of reality in this way.
I’m guessing that there is also a price to pay for this facile luxury; the more one practices undoing, the easier it is for one to be deceived by ‘framing’.
Framing is the practise of fooling people with tricky descriptions that dress up, say, a potential loss as riskless gain.
This is from the school of psychology that says that people don’t choose between things. What they do is choose between the descriptions of things.
Undoing and framing – they both rely on temporal misdescriptions. As does Donald Trump and any Hollywood movie.
In the case of undoing, we have a misdescription of what might reasonably have been different in the past. Framing is the misdescription of what might reasonably be otherwise in the future.
So there are two aspects to this phenomenon. The scope of the misdescriptions and the degree and sign of non-temporality.
We actually live in the present and things are what they are. But people, to a greater or lesser degree, live in the past and the future, and this gives them the luxury of misdescribing things.
Because, although things are what they are, that is only true of the now. In the past and in the future, things can be anything because they don’t really exist.
It’s a fine line that people draw here. If their imagination is too outlandish, too unreasonable, then they cannot use or share their interpretations of the past, or meaningfully constrain the future, or prepare for it.
As in all things human, this habit of using reasonable temporal misdescriptions must be the most efficient means of using our limited processing power for the purposes of surviving and procreating. That’s a given.
I suspect that we live in fractal-like social environment. It looks at times free-willish, chaotic and random, but if you pull back and view it from the right distance then it’s got a certain familiar look and feel to it, no matter the era.
And no wonder, if we distort our current existence with the same limited set of reasonable temporal misdescriptions. That would bring us back around to where we started, time and time again, with no competitive disadvantage.
Myself, I think it’s more lucrative to imagine away at the future and leave the past well enough alone. But I guess I’m mostly alone in this view.
In fact, more and more, I’m leaving the future alone as well these days.
It’s not just about living in the now. Another important aspect of ‘personal peace’ is to avoid the process of creating temporal misdescriptions, for whatever reason.
To do so requires that you face things as they are, thus removing subconscious dissonance, leaving the soul to settle amicably with reality, no matter what it brings.
The best course of action, the most likely truth, is that things are what they are. Now, in the past, and in the future.
If you accept this, then the power of reasonable temporal misdescriptions is removed. Then you will find that you stop the process of imagining them, and find yourself here in the now.
As a side effect, you will also find movies almost unbearable to watch. They are usually examples of vaguely unreasonable temporal misdescriptions.
Before doing all this though, you might be well warned that you will be at a competitive disadvantage in the competition for resources. You simply won’t be arsed.
So make sure that you are well stocked up beforehand, or that you can live very leanly.
Postscript – the eastern cults that practice ‘removal’ from life as a path to enlightenment; it’s just occurred to me that they are cargo cults. They practice lean living in the now without reasonable temporal misdescriptions, but ironically without the enlightenment as to why they are doing so. It’s all backwards!